Guidance and tips on the different ways children can communicate.
Introduction
All forms of communication are valid, and it’s important to recognise, respect, and support the unique ways each child connects with the world around them, if they do not use traditional speech.
Pre-verbal children are children who are learning to communicate before they can speak. They communicate in lots of ways to tell you what they want or need. Sometimes this might be in a quite a subtle way, like making the ‘b’ sound for bubbles.
Non-verbal children simply means that a child communicates in ways other than spoken language. It does not reflect a lack of intelligence, personality, or potential. Many non-verbal children express themselves richly through alternative methods such as gestures, facial expressions, sign language or communication devices. These diverse forms of communication are equally valid and meaningful. With the right support and understanding, non-verbal children can build strong relationships, make decisions, share emotions, and fully participate with their peers. It’s important to recognise and celebrate the many different ways children communicate, and to respect every individual’s unique voice—whether it is spoken or not.
So, when talking about children under 5, in many cases “pre-verbal” is probably a more useful term, but you might hear both phrases used to describe your child.
Parent/carers often ask:
How can I communicate with my non-speaking child?
Top tips and ideas
So how can you communicate with your child?
Use short phrases and simple words
Speak clearly and slowly
Get down to your child's level
Talk about what your child is doing
Repeat movements, actions, words, or signs as many times as possible
Use the same object each time to represent something else - for example, showing a spoon to let your child know it is time to eat
Use photographs – for example of a place you are going to – doctor, shop, nursery, park
Use signs or symbols – e.g. from Makaton or BSL
Use visual communication boards (sometimes called now and next boards)
Attention and listening helps with communication. At first, your child may be easily distracted by other things they can see or hear. Gradually, they will learn to focus for a bit longer if it is something they find interesting. You can try some different ways to help your child listen and respond.
Things to try to help your child learn to listen:
Using bubbles: Call their name and wait for them to look at you before blowing the bubbles.
Port and pans or home-made shakers: Tap on pots or pans or fill small pots or tubs with dry rice or lentils and shake them. You can also turn this into a stop/go game by saying “stop” and waiting for them to look at you before you say “go!” and start to tap or shake again.
Different ways your child may communicate with you:
Making eye contact or using eye gaze
Eye tracking movements to show what they want
Reaching out, or using gestures – pointing or other movements
Taking your hand or leading you to what they want
Sounds, vocalisations and tones
Crying / demonstrating distressed behaviours
Using body language or facial expressions
You will come to recognise the different ways your child is communicating with you.
Makaton
The Makaton communication programme combines speech, signing, and symbols, specifically to help those with learning or communication difficulties. It is designed to support spoken language, to help children and adults to communicate with others around them.
Using signs can help children who have no speech, limited speech or whose speech is unclear. Children’s understanding often develops ahead of their speech, which can be very frustrating because they know what they want to say but struggle to say it. Using signs can help them with this and so helps with the frustration.
In this video from CBeebies, parents of children who use Makaton explain how it has helped them communicate. And Makaton Tutor Kate Duggan explains how Makaton is beneficial for children of all ages and abilities.
The BBC’s award-winning Something Special children’s programme features Mr Tumble, who uses Makaton signs, speech and symbols to help children learn how to communicate and develop their language skills in a fun way.
British Sign Language is a sign language used in the UK and is used mainly by people who are deaf or have hearing impairments. This video shows 50 key signs for beginners.
Here are some terms or abbreviations you might come across:
Preverbal
Refers to a child who is still developing spoken language and communicates primarily through nonverbal means like gestures, vocalizations, and facial expressions.
Nonverbal
Can refer to children and adults who have not developed spoken language or who have limited verbal ability, but they still communicate through other means like sign language, assistive communication devices, or other forms of nonverbal communication.
ASD/C
Autistic Spectrum Disorder / Condition.
Neurodiversity
A framework for understanding how people think, learn, and behave. Most people are neurotypical, meaning their brains function as expected by society. However, it’s estimated that around 1 in 7 people are neurodivergent. Neurodiversity covers a wide range of conditions, including dyslexia, dyspraxia, ADHD, and autism.
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