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The First 1000 Days

A time of rapid growth and brain development.

The ‘First 1,001 Days’  refers to the period from conception to a child’s second birthday, a time of rapid growth and brain development. Research describes this is a “window of opportunity,” with leading experts emphasising that the experiences a child has and quality of the care they receive during this early time in their lives has a significant impact on their future development, overall health, and emotional well-being across their life.

 

By the age of two, a child’s brain is already 80% developed and has been making around one million new connections every second!

 

Here are some fascinating baby brain facts.

 

Babies are completely reliant on their parent and carers, and later development is heavily influenced by the loving attachment babies have to them. These 1,001 days are also a critical period for developing communication, social and physical skills. Babies need to be encouraged and supported by their parents and carers to learn these skills. Some of the most important experiences that will shape a baby’s brain come from their interactions with significant adults in their lives.

 

The emotional health and physical wellbeing, social skills, cognitive and language development in the 1,001 critical days, form the foundations for a child’s success in school and in later life. These develop best when a baby has at least one stable and secure attachment with their main carer, so they feel safe and secure. It’s this relationship that supports positive early development.

If you would like to find out more about the first 1001 days and your role as a parent in shaping your baby’s brain on the Parent-Infant Foundation website.

Bonding with Your Baby

Bonding with your baby, both before and after birth, plays an important role in their emotional and brain development. Research shows that early connection helps your baby feel safe, secure, and ready to build healthy relationships as they grow. Whether it begins during pregnancy or develops after birth, that bond is a powerful part of your journey together.

 

Bonding can involve talking, singing, reading, and engaging with your baby on a 1 on 1 basis. Dads/partners can start building a bond even during pregnancy too by attending antenatal visits, talking to their baby, and supporting you with preparing for the birth.

 

After baby is born dads/partners can further bond with their babies through a variety of activities, including skin-to-skin contact, cuddling, playing, and participating in daily routines like nappy changes and feedings. Using a bottle with expressed breastmilk or formula are other options to help with bonding.

 

When your baby is born, you will be encouraged to have skin-to-skin contact as soon as possible. Skin-to-skin contact means holding your baby naked against your skin, usually under your top or under a blanket. Your baby will be able to hear the comforting and familiar sound of your heartbeat and voice, which will help calm and relax them. Skin-to-skin contact also helps:

Responding to your baby’s needs and getting to know them using eye contact, smiling, copying expressions, and playing simple games like peekaboo – all helps your baby feel secure, supports their learning and development, builds their brain, and strengthens the bond between you.

Meeting your Baby for the first time

This UNICEF video describes the importance of skin-to-skin contact.

Top Tips for Bonding with your Baby

The following websites have some top tips for bonding with your baby.

Physical Contact

Research shows that you can’t cuddle your newborn too much. In fact, gentle touch is vital for their development. Physical closeness helps support brain growth, emotional wellbeing, and helps babies feel safe and secure as they adjust to the world around them.

 

Carrying your baby often can help them feel calm and secure and may reduce how much they cry. Babies who are held more tend to cry less, which can lower their stress levels and support healthy brain development. Your baby spent the last nine months staying close to you, and they’re accustomed to your heartbeat, breathing, and internal noises. Carrying a newborn close to you allows your baby to continue experiencing this sensation. They’ll feel more comfortable and secure as a result.

 

Many parents use a baby sling as a safe way to keep their baby close. Follow these guidelines to help keep your baby safe whilst they are in a sling.

 

The Slings-on-Sea sling library offers tailored support and advice for all parents and carers who want to carry their babies in a sling.

The sling library can also be found alongside Cake Club’s playgroup sessions in various locations during the week, where there is infant feeding support and general parenting support too. Visit the Cake Club Facebook page.

Mental Health and Wellbeing

Many parents can feel quite low or can experience some postnatal depression or anxiety within days, weeks or even months after the birth of their baby. It’s much more common than people realise and can affect how you feel about caring for your baby or how you connect with other people. Over half of all new mothers will experience what is known as the “baby blues.” Symptoms of the baby blues include feeling tearful, irritable, and overwhelmed at times and can last for about 10 days after having a baby.

 

If you continue to experience these feelings beyond 2 weeks, then please do speak to your GP or health visitor. They are there to help, and getting the right support at the right time helps not only your wellbeing but also your baby’s wellbeing and development.

 

Attending a postnatal check with your GP around six weeks after birth is important. It’s a chance to talk about your recovery, your wellbeing and anything else you might need. Your GP Surgery should offer you an appointment for this.

 

Remember you are not alone, and there is lots of advice and support available to help you feel understood, supported, and empowered — whatever you’re going through. Reaching out is a brave and important first step, and there are people and services ready to walk alongside you.

Perinatal Mental Health Tips

We have a useful Tip Sheet which can help you find out more about Perinatal Mental Health and the services that can support you if should you need them.

Mental Health and Wellbeing

If you feel you are struggling to bond with your baby in any way, you can contact your health visitor or GP or consider the Together with Baby service.

 

The Maternal Mental Health Alliance (MMHA) offers lots of valuable information, advice, and support for parents who may be struggling with their mental health during pregnancy or after the birth of their baby. Information and support for those who have recently given birth and their families can be found here.

 

Here are some useful mental health and wellbeing tips for during and after pregnancy.

 

Here is also a useful ’symptom checker’ to help you to identify the signs and symptoms of perinatal mental illness and may need some help.

 

PANDAS also has social media channels for anyone affected by postnatal depression, including partners.

 

Click here for NHS Information on Postnatal Depression.

Perinatal Mental Health Awareness

This video shares honest stories from parents and expert advice from health visitors, shining a light on what perinatal mental health really looks like.

Meeting other Parents

Social connections and support from other parents and carers play a crucial role in promoting mental well-being for both you and your baby. By making connections and reducing feelings of isolation, socialisation can help to reduce the risk of post-natal low mood, depression, and anxiety.

 

The Livewell Southend website has a list of baby and toddler groups that you can attend to meet other parents.

Southend Family Centres

Southend Family Centres offer a variety of free sessions, services and courses to children aged 0 to 5 years and their families, including play sessions, information workshops and parental support from pregnancy. The Family Centres are the hub of services, information, support and advice for you and your family during the early years.

Understanding Relationship Challenges

If you’re pregnant or have recently had a baby and are experiencing physical, verbal abuse, or controlling behaviour, it’s important to know you’re not alone. For many women, pregnancy or the arrival of a new baby can trigger or escalate these harmful behaviours, which can feel frightening, confusing, and isolating. Reaching out for support takes courage, and there are people ready to listen and help without judgment.

 

Every situation is unique, but there are common signs that often appear in abusive relationships. Recognising these can be an important first step toward preventing and stopping the abuse. This list may help you identify if you are in an abusive relationship.

 

Remember, none of this is your fault. You and your baby deserve to feel safe, respected, and supported always.

 

There are compassionate people who understand what you’re going through and want to offer help in a gentle, non-judgmental way. Whether you’re ready to talk now or just want to know where to turn if you need support in the future, help is available.

Useful Links for Relationship Challenges

It may be very difficult to tell someone what is going on at home in your relationship, but if you do feel that you are in, or feel you may be in, an abusive relationship and need advice, help or support:

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is open 24/7 for free and confidential advice.
Tel: 0808 2000 247.

Women’s Aid

Women’s Aid aims to empower women who have been affected by domestic abuse to live independent lives free from fear and abuse. Their website has a number of useful links and information.

Safe Steps Southend

All support and advice is confidential and free of charge. Tel: 01702 302333

Galop

Galop offer emotional and practical support for LGBT+ people experiencing domestic abuse, hate crime and sexual violence. Tel: 0800 999 5428

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